There is a question you’re not asking.
You may have asked versions of it in the shower, in the car, right before bed when your brain won’t stop looping.
But when given the chance to speak it out loud, you edit it down.
Soften it.
Sanitize it.
Squash it.
And over time, the real question turns into some kind of “respectable” version. One that helps you avoid vulnerability, but doesn’t help you get unstuck.
You may ask: “How do I set better boundaries?”
But what you really mean is: “Why do I always beg for the bare minimum?”
You may ask: “How do I stay consistent with my goals?”
But what you really mean is: “Why do I sabotage things the second they start going well?”
You may ask: “How do I build confidence?”
But what you really mean is: “Where does this feeling of unworthiness come from?”
Sound familiar?
Your life doesn’t shift when someone gives you generic advice in response to a “respectable” question. It shifts when you finally ask the raw, real question you’ve been thinking about for years.
It’s truth that allows the real wisdom to surface, and the real answers to reach you.
How do you actually get the answers you’re looking for?
Most people do not need more content. They need one precise answer, at the right time, from someone they trust.
This month, I’m creating space for those questions in a way I’ve never done before, and it is going to be life-changing.
Meet me here tomorrow to find out how I’m inviting you to ask the question you’ve been avoiding and what becomes possible when you get the answers you’ve been waiting for. I can’t wait to share it with you!
When you feel stuck, what do you usually do?
On the newest episode of On Purpose, Matthew McConaughey joins me for a deeply personal conversation.
He opens up in a way you’ve never heard before, sharing how navigating uncertainty, redefining success, and learning to trust yourself, your values, and life itself can change the way you move forward.
We also dive into identity, purpose, failure, love, his relationships, and parts of his journey he’s never shared until now.
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Today’s Wiser Choice
Try this: That thing you are constantly thinking about…bring it to the forefront of your mind.
Then I want you to finish this sentence, in writing (not in your head):
“If I wasn’t trying to sound reasonable, my real question would be…”
Write the version you usually soften.
The one you don’t say out loud.
The one that feels a little embarrassing, dramatic, or “too much.”
Then stop.
The practice is simply this: saying your truth out loud.
