Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I feel lost”?
When you say it, it feels like the truest sentence you’ve ever spoken, and also like it shouldn’t be true at all.
Because you’re not wandering through the woods without a compass.
You’re not actually lost.
In fact, if you’re reading this, you’re probably holding a phone or sitting near a computer in a familiar place. You have navigational support in the palm of your hand.
And yet… you may still feel lost.
Even when life looks “fine” from the outside, it can still feel directionless on the inside.
Waking up already feeling behind, because your mind starts sprinting before your day even starts. Over time, that turns into exhaustion, irritability, and decisions you don’t recognize as your own.
Going through your day on autopilot, like the world is happening near you, not for you. You get things done, you answer people, you show up… and still feel empty.
Being surrounded by people and still feeling alone, not because no one sees you, but because you don’t feel truly seen on the inside. You don’t even know how to explain what’s wrong without sounding ungrateful. So you keep it inside.
Let me give you an example from my own life.
When I felt the most lost, I entered monkhood.
I was so disconnected from my purpose that I traded my entire life, and almost everything in it, for a shot at real answers.
That path gave me tools I use every day, and it became the foundation for my career.
But not everyone has the option to disappear into silence to find their way.
Sometimes I wonder what I would have done if I’d been married to Radhi then, or if I’d been a young parent with big responsibilities—responsibilities that didn’t take a pause just because I needed to.
Or if I’d been caring for aging parents. Or navigating a major illness.
Many people who feel “lost” are living inside these exact realities.
Feeling lost doesn’t mean you’re unmotivated.
It isn’t a character flaw. It’s not laziness. It’s often just a lack of support in the moments that matter most: when you can’t step away, but you’re falling apart inside.
We don’t all need monkhood. I know how rare that life path may seem.
But we do all need a map. For whatever reality we’re facing.
I want you to know that you don’t have to disappear to find your way.
You just need support where you are.
What support would help you most right now?
On Purpose
Yesterday I sat down with Nick Jonas for an intimate conversation about identity, purpose, and the inner work that comes with growing up in the spotlight. Nick opened up about starting his career as a child, navigating early rejection, public labels, and the pressure of being “the creative one” in a global phenomenon.
This episode is for you if you need a reminder that it’s okay to slow down, ask better questions, and choose compassion over criticism.
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