Today I want to revisit something we talked about last week.

On Friday, April 17th I shared my brand new Better Conversations Workbook, which is a guide I created to help you communicate with more intention, clarity, and compassion. It includes the 4 questions I ask myself before any difficult discussion built around my 4 pillars of trust.

As a gift for being a reader of The Daily Wisdom, I’m offering it to you at 50% off when you use the discount code WISDOMREADER at checkout. 

I wanted to share this resource with you because last week I wrote about the three types of fighting styles and why it’s so important to understand what your own fighting style is and what your partner’s fighting style is. The Better Conversations Workbook is an awesome tool to put your communication skills to practice. 

And to take it one step further, let’s dive into the exercise below.

Try This: Think back to the last disagreement you had with your partner.

Instead of focusing on what the argument was about, focus on how you showed up.

  • Did you want to talk it out immediately? This is venting. 

  • Did you need space and go quiet? This is hiding. 

  • Did your emotions rise quickly and spill out? This is exploding.

Identify your natural tendency: venting, hiding, exploding. Then share your insights with your partner. You can keep it simple by saying:

“Hey, I realized that when we argue, I tend to ___."
“I think it would help if we tried ___ next time.”

This is also an opportunity for you to ask your partner questions. 

  • What do they notice about themselves? 

  • Do they recognize their own fighting style? 

Remember: This isn't a conflict. This is a conversation you're having before the next conflict. Understanding each other's fighting styles doesn't eliminate arguments, but it can help you get to resolutions faster through a more peaceful approach.

Prompt: What's underneath my fighting style? Why might I be wired this way?

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