On Monday’s episode of my podcast, I sat down with relationship coach, teacher, and podcast host Jillian Turecki, to talk about relationship advice, dating mistakes and her new book, It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life.

Our conversation starts with an in-depth discussion of how dating apps burn us out, how the fear of rejection prevents us from putting ourselves out there and how it’s often much better to be single than be in the wrong relationship.

Jillian describes what she calls the Attraction Paradox—why we’re drawn to people who don’t want us, while ignoring those who do. She breaks down the impacts of old patterns, toxic dynamics and unhealthy cycles before we get into a conversation about honesty and healing. I’m passionate about love and relationships, too (and if you haven’t read my book 8 Rules of Love, now’s a perfect time to order it), and it’s always a joy to chat with someone like Jillian, who has so much wisdom to share. If you’re feeling stuck in your love life, this episode is for you.

Listen to the episode on Apple or Spotify.

Do you find that you’re replaying old memories? Are you weighed down by things from your last relationship?  Are you just having trouble moving on?

In Friday’s podcast episode, I introduce a powerful technique designed to help you heal and grow from the wounds of a breakup. It’s called the 30-Day No-Contact Reinvention Challenge, and if you follow it closely, in one month, you’ll be a stronger, wiser, more fulfilled person.

It’s time to reclaim your life. Let go of the past. Erase those old patterns and replace them with a new, beautiful version of yourself. Heartbreak is one of the most painful experiences we can go through. My hope is that you can get through it on your terms with these tools.

Listen to the episode on Apple or Spotify.