“Work is draining me right now, and I just don’t know what to do.”

“My relationship is falling apart, and I wish I had some guidance.”

“I’m at a low point financially, and it feels like nobody knows or cares.”

Why is it that when things feel the toughest, we feel the most isolated? What makes us feel so lonely when challenges come our way?

I believe it’s because we’re afraid of asking for help.

We’re scared of asking our parents.
We’re scared of asking our friends.
We’re scared of asking our brothers and sisters, our coworkers, our community members.

We’re scared that our problems aren’t big enough. That there are other people who have bigger problems, which somehow invalidate our own.

We’re scared that our problems aren’t real enough. That we should be able to figure them out by now.

We’re scared that our problems aren’t valid enough. That everybody deals with this kind of thing, and we just need to get over it.

But, as I described to Michelle Obama on her podcast a few months ago: learning how to ask for help when you need it is one of the strongest things you can do.

Asking for help is a strength.

Not asking for help can feel like strength at first. But over time, it can become a quiet form of weakness, one that erodes connection, confidence, and trust in others.

We convince ourselves that if we ask for help, we’re somehow admitting to the world that we’re not perfect.

But here’s the thing. You’re not perfect. And nobody expects you to be. 

When you ask for support, you bring people in. You humanize yourself. You turn your suffering into an opportunity for connection.

The greatest power in your life is the people you’re surrounded by. 

Think of your favorite people. Maybe a friend, a family member. What would you do if they came to you asking for your help, big or small? You’d do it, without question.

Let them do the same for you.

Remember: Today marks Veterans Day in the U.S. and Remembrance Day in Canada. For those recognizing this day, may it be a moment of reflection, appreciation, and connection.

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We all have problems we face day in and day out: some big, some small. None of them has to be done totally on your own.

Try This: Make a list of the things you have to do that are really weighing you down. For example, you might have bills that you’re struggling to pay off. Or you might have a to-do list that’s longer than a CVS receipt. Or both.

Now write a second list.

Who are the people in your life that are your biggest supporters? Maybe parents, maybe friends, maybe neighbors.

Are there people on that list you can ask for help? Maybe it’s as simple as calling them and talking about the problem. Because sometimes just being heard is enough.

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