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This is your permission to pause and take a little time for yourself.

There’s a concept known as the Interface Theory of Perception, pioneered by cognitive psychologist Donald Hoffman. His research suggests that our senses don’t present the full reality of what’s in front of us but instead act as an interface.

Put more simply by author Bradley Hook, “Imagine your computer desktop: the icons you see are not the actual files or programs but simplified representations that make it easier for you to interact with the system.”

What I think this theory forces us to remember is that what we observe on the surface rarely tells the whole story.

In the case of a quiet room, we can’t be tempted to confuse the absence of noise with the presence of harmony. Silence does not always equal peace. It only sounds like it. So when you notice quietness in a relationship or within yourself but don’t necessarily feel calm, take that as a signal to look past what’s in front of you and ask what is actually being carried in that stillness.

Love,
Jay ❤️

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