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This is your permission to pause and take a little time for yourself.

A guest at one of my events last year told me that, one time, she sat in her car outside a fitness class for nearly twenty minutes because she was scared that everyone would judge her.

Eventually she worked up the courage to go inside. Despite her fear of being humiliated  (something she had experienced before), no one laughed at her. No one questioned why she was there. When it was over, everyone just went their separate ways, with smiles on their faces. She realized no one outwardly judged her.

Sometimes showing up scared means discovering that the catastrophe we imagined was not actually real.

But, naturally, fear is harder to reason with when the thing you’re scared of has happened before.

I understand that more than I wish I did.

There are moments when I still hesitate to be visible, not because I can’t imagine surviving criticism, but because I already know how deeply it can hurt. When you have lived through the outcome once, courage is no longer about convincing yourself that nothing bad will happen.

Sometimes, it is about knowing something might, and still refusing to let one painful experience become the decision-maker for every experience that follows.

Love,
Jay ❤️

We all carry fear and doubt, but few have faced them on the scale Travis Barker has.

In this all new conversation on On Purpose, Travis opens up about the devastating loss of his mother, his years battling addiction, and the tragic plane crash that changed the course of his life. After years of intense fear and pain, what followed was a profound shift in how he chooses to live today: running directly toward the things that scare him.

Remember, I’m in your corner today, tomorrow, and anytime you need a little permission to believe that everything is going to work out.