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I want to talk about the voice you hear the most. Your own.

Learning how to speak to yourself with kindness and compassion is an important thing to do. But first, you have to identify how you speak to yourself right now. 

Let’s start by figuring out which of the three categories you fall into, based on common ways people tend to speak to themselves: 

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The Critic 
When something goes wrong, The Critic's first instinct is to turn inward with judgment. They say things like, "I should have known better," or "What's wrong with me?"

The Doubter
The Doubter hesitates. It whispers, "Are you sure?" and "What if you fail?" before you've even begun. It can feel like it’s trying to keep you safe, even if it holds you back.

The Avoider
The Avoider changes the subject. It distracts, numbs, and scrolls until the discomfort passes. Not because it doesn't feel, but because it feels too much.

Identify your default: Critic, Doubter, or Avoider.

Try This: Think back to the last time something didn't go the way you planned. Maybe you made a mistake at work, recalled a moment of regret, or overthought a goal you haven't started.

How did you speak to yourself in that moment?

  • Did you replay it on a loop and pick yourself apart? This is the Critic.

  • Did you spiral into "what ifs"? This is the Doubter.

  • Did you push it down and refuse to address it? This is the Avoider.

Now, take the thought you had and respond to it the way you would respond to a close friend.

For example:

  • The Critic said, "I always mess this up.” → Your friend might say, "You're being hard on yourself. What can you learn from this?"

  • The Doubter said, "What if I'm not ready?" → Your friend might say, "You'll never feel 100% ready. What's one small step you can take today anyway?"

  • The Avoider went quiet. → Your friend might ask, "What are you afraid to address?"

This is a practice. The more you come back to it, the kinder your inner dialogue is. Many areas of your life – your relationships, your work, your confidence – can be influenced by the conversations happening inside your head. 

You deserve your own compassion.

Which voice do you hear most in your head?

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Prompt: Ask me 5 questions to help me identify if I’m a Critic, Doubter, or Avoider.

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