Q: How can I make my inbox less stressful?

Today I want to talk about something that may seem a little silly — email.

Yep, that’s right. I’m writing you an email about email. Bear with me. It’s a big day around here!

When I started out, my goal was simple: make wisdom go viral. For the past three years, I’ve tried to do that through this newsletter, Weekly Wisdom. But lately…with everything going on in the world, once a week hasn’t felt like enough.

So, starting today, Weekly Wisdom is now The Daily Wisdom – the same newsletter 800,000 of you already subscribe to and share, now dropping in your inbox every weekday.

You might be thinking, but why Jay? With so much noise in the world, would we add more, not less? But here’s the thing:

Ninety-nine percent of us check our inbox every single day, some of us twenty times or more. And yet, most of the time, we leave feeling worse than when we arrived. We’re inundated with obligations and other people’s needs: messages waiting for answers, reminders, requests…notifications that quietly tug at our peace.

The inbox has become a place of stress.

But it wasn’t always this way. I remember when my inbox felt like a space for meaningful connection. Real correspondence with real people.

Somewhere along the way, that shifted. The noise grew louder. Every “just following up” became another layer of static in an already chaotic world — one that demands we make decisions before we’ve even had a chance to think.

We’re pushed into action before we’re calm, clear, or ready.

The thing is, across centuries and traditions, in all the work I’ve studied from ancient philosophy to modern science, wisdom has actually followed the opposite rhythm: calm first, clarity second, action third.

Your spiritual teacher and your medical doctor would both agree.

It’s a simple code for living that helps us make better decisions from a place of calm, not chaos. When practised regularly, it allows us to move through our lives with more courage and confidence. No matter what questions arise — from the small ones that shape your day, like “Should I speak up?” and “Is this worth my time?” to the big ones that shape your life like “What truly matters?” and “Am I on the right path?” — we always know what to do.

So when I thought about how I could help quiet the noise of the world, I realized I had two choices: stop sharing altogether or share more. And if I was going to share more, it had to serve a purpose: not to be yet another obligation, but to help restore the optimal rhythm of your mind.

So, that’s what The Daily Wisdom is here to deliver: a short message every weekday that offers one calming thought, one clear dose of wisdom, and one purposeful action to help you find that rhythm again, building your confidence one email at a time.

So yes, starting today, I am filling your inbox more often. If noise is daily, why should wisdom be anything less? 

And if it resonates, I hope you’ll share it with others in your life to help bring real connection and true correspondence back into the places we’ve lost it most.

Starting with your inbox.

Saturday’s episode of the podcast was the first in a mini-series featuring my wife, Radhi. We dove into a topic that I’m certain many of you have been faced with time and again: the decision to have children. Having children is one of the biggest decisions you can make in your life, and yet so many of us don’t stop to really think about the impact it will have on us and our relationships. In this loving conversation, we talk about the financial, emotional, and biological realities of starting a family in the modern age.

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Today’s Wiser Choice

Those of you who know my work well know I’m a humongous proponent of a morning ritual, especially one that keeps you off your phone. But, we need to accept the fact that some of the time we’re going to have to open our inboxes even when we don’t want to. So let’s do what we can to make it a more peaceful experience.

Try This: I want you to open up your email right now and just observe how you feel. Does it feel overwhelming? Disorganized? Or does it give you energy? Take out a piece of paper or note on your device and write down every little thing you observe. Like,

I sure get a lot of work emails that make me feel behind.”

Or

There are so many newsletters here, but nothing that makes me feel better.”

This exercise is not to make you feel bad – it’s to give you awareness. Once you know how you feel, you can start taking steps to make yourself feel even better. Just like with your life, there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. The answer is whatever works best for you. So that when you inevitably open up your email at 8 am, it can be a peaceful experience instead of a stressful one.

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